The Sun Rises and Sets

I’ve often heard this phrase throughout my life during difficult times that people have faced, but I never realized truer words until I lost my father February 20, 2018. You hear those cliché’s of…life goes on; they’re in a better place, etc. I’ve used them myself, but when you are the one going through the actual storm, you discover what you’re made of and the strength of your faith.

I’ve seriously spent the last eight years rediscovering myself and my purpose. I’ve studied metaphysics, learned meditation and yoga, and tried to practice every day what it means to be present. I’ve also practiced the image of hope and believe there’s a reason for everything, but it wasn’t until my father slipped away that I understood what I had in me to carry on, get up each day and push through, and watch the sun rise and set.

I remember looking out my mother’s window after coming back from hospice when my father received last rites, and I watched the cars buzz by on the highway. People were scurrying off to work, or shopping, or taking their children to school. It was in that immediate moment when I realized, wow…life indeed does go on.

My emotions were mixed. I was angry that I lost my dad. I was relieved he wasn’t suffering anymore and at peace on the other side. My heart ached, and the pain was indescribable, but through all of that, a strange calm came over me. It was true, dad no longer suffered from neuropathy, shortness of breath, heart issues, a stroke, and pneumonia. I was blessed to have him in my 54 years, and I knew that I would hold his memories in my heart forever. To be honest, I’m not really sure where the calm and peace came from, other than knowing that I’ll be able to talk to my dad daily now. It just won’t be over the phone.

So, if you’re struggling with any pain, please know that if you keep your heart and mind open to the peace that comes with faith and hope, you can get through anything. You’ll soon discover, just as I did, that watching the sun rise and set is a gift from God not to be taken lightly.

Get up every day with a renewed enthusiasm for life. Love one another, cherish one another and be kind to one another. Cliché as it may be, life is short, life does go on, and the sun does rise and set…and so it is!


Courage to Make a Change in Your Life

The new year certainly brings on the usual resolutions of going on a diet, or self-improvement, etc. But how willing are you to really make the needed change in our life? I, myself, have the habit of talking the talk, but not walking the walk. I think there comes a time when you have to really look in the mirror and put yourself in a corner with these questions:

  • How much do you really want to change? A little? A great deal?
  • How much do you believe needs to be changed?
  • Are you willing to make the change/s?
  • Are you willing to stick it out when you start to attempt making “the” change?
  • Do you have the faith and belief you really can change?
  • Do you have the personal inner drive to see through the obstacles to come out on the other side fully changed?

These may be hard questions, but there comes a point when you need to “put up…or shut up”. There are times when a person doesn’t have any other choice than to change, such as the loss of job, or divorce. Sometimes being pushed into that corner is when we learn how capable we really are to make the needed changes.

Here’s a simple guide to help in personal transformation:

  • You must be willing to start the process to make the needed change and understand that it MUST begin with you;
  • You must understand that where you’ve been responsible for your own mistakes in the past, that you will make EVERY effort not to repeat them;
  • You need to realize that during this process you will be highly sensitive or vulnerable. It’s important NOT to let this sensitivity in life be a deterrent to accomplish your self-transformation;
  • You MUST be on guard not to let any negativity of others be an influence in your life. You do not want them to cause any setbacks in your attempt for inner transformation;
  • You must realize there will be an inevitable loss of some friends (I’ve experienced this). There may be people who think it peculiar for you to attempt to change or transform yourself;
  • Other may resent your attempt in changing because it is a reminder of their lack of confidence to take the very actions in their own lives. You may experience a sense of isolation, but DON’T let it deter you from your process of transformation;
  • It’s also important that as you begin to reach the end of your transformation that you DO NOT look down on others for their weaknesses. After all, this is the greatest definition of hypocrisy;
  • It may be that you recognize that part of the change that begins to take place relies on faith;
  • But the biggest understanding of making the needed change and/or personal transformation is that your TRUTH! The truth within you and in your dealings with others helps us to be more honest with ourselves and others.

If you know in your heart that a change is needed within you that will move you forward into the next chapter of your life, then believe in yourself! Know that you have the courage of the heart and the hope to do whatever is necessary to bring that change in your life! So stop putting it off…you’ve got this!

And so it is…

The Best Time in Your Life…Is Now

This was the centering thought of my mediation today, and I believe it holds an amazing amount of truth. If you were to ask yourself, when was the perfect time of your life, it’s common for us to reflect back to certain moments (i.e marriage, childbirth, job promotion). However, those moments were the best times of our life…then, at that moment.

It’s natural to choose monumental events that have made us happy, but we need to be happy every day being in the present moment. The best time in your life is when you are folding laundry, washing dishes, doing your job at work, meditating, and having dinner with your family.

A good reminder of how precious our time is, is being in the moment and believing it’s the best time in your life in that moment. We are constantly thinking about the next thing, the next job, the next dinner, the next day, month, year and then we wonder why we ask ourselves, Where does the time go?

When you give your undivided attention to the moment you are in, it brings a sense of fulfillment. I love the adage from Deepak Chopra about the common phrase when we tell people to slow down, “Stop and smell the roses.” His view is, ‘wouldn’t it be better if we were the gardener in that bed of roses’? I think so.

So whatever it is that you’re doing right now, reading this post, make sure you’re giving it your all…be present and remember, the best time in your life…is now!

…and so it is!

Getting in the Way of Oneself

Have you ever noticed that the person who is the hardest on you…is YOU? I’ve certainly learned this over the years. We put so much pressure on ourselves to succeed in every area of our lives. Trying to force the hand to fit our situation. I love the phrase, “If you want to make God smile, tell him you have a plan.”

One of the most difficult things I have tried to learn is, to just be…to go with the flow. Has anyone ever told you to just chill? It’s easier said than done. I’ve told many others that same phrase. Unfortunately, I haven’t mastered it myself.

I need to learn to get out of my own way. To trust in the Universe and to believe that I am where I need to be in the present moment. My mind is in a constant motion, which is why meditation has been hard for me over the last several years. Trying to shut off all of the chatter and to be still, even for five minutes, can be difficult.

However, I do know that when I reach a moment of frustration or impatience, it doesn’t take me near as long as it once did to clear my thoughts and move forward. I remember hearing a great phrase that I tell myself during these moments, “I may not be where I want to be, but at least I’m not where I used to be. I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be.”

So if you’re having a bad moment, day, week, month, or year, don’t get in the way of yourself. Try to quiet your mind through meditation or any other diversion that clears your thoughts. Then tell yourself that everything is as it should be…and trust in the process. Take a quick glimpse at how far you’ve come to this point, and believe you’re doing everything right in that moment.

Remember the phrase, The Universe is for me, and so is everything else…and so it is!

Your Spiritual Truth Will Bring Happiness and Success

I’ve recently learned, on this amazing journey of mine, that I hadn’t been speaking my truth. That I was blocking myself subconsciously causing a repeated cycle of frustration, anxiety, and restlessness.

At first, I was quite confused as to the meaning of “speaking my truth”, but I have slowly gathered that I was lacking my own confidence. I spoke the words, I am a great at…fill in the blank…but I truly didn’t believe it.

I think we all hear that little tiny voice in our head that says, “Are you really that good at this?” “Do you really want to try something new?” “Can you trust yourself to be successful at…?”

Well I’m here to tell you that you ARE awesome, talented, and creative. If you acknowledge that, in your own mind, you can possess all that is good within you. You can receive through a process of psychic energy and set it into motion within your own mind.

Every thought in your mind is a cause, which sets into motion a psychic energy out into the Universe, which will result in a physical effect visibly seen by the world. If you think good thoughts in your own mind, you will set up a psychic chain reaction that will eventually return good to you in your life. That same goes if you put out the negative thoughts into the Universe.

When you have learned and practiced this process, you will discover and believe that any type of negative condition that comes upon your life is only temporary. The same goes to being good or kind to another person. This will then bring goodness and kindness back to you.

Here are a few daily guidelines to help you live the law of success:

  • Meditate each day to keep your intuition open.
  • Program your mind each day with success ideas during meditation so as to place successful thoughts into your subconscious.
  • Don’t allow yourself to become sidetracked from your goals. Think for yourself.
  • Live each day as if you have already received your goals of success.
  • Don’t worry about where, or from whom, how this success can come to you. Constantly confirm that all channels are open and flowing to you from the Universe.
  • Every time you think a positive thought about success, immediately follow it up with the words, “And so it is!” This enforces the power of the thought in your subconscious.
  • As always, follow the bible verse, “As we sow, so shall we reap.” Plant those positive seeds into your subconscious.
  • Don’t fear the future. You were put on this earth for a purpose to fulfill your destiny.
  • Pace the tempo of your journey. Don’t feel you need to be in a hurry for your success.

So don’t just say the words, “I am great at…”, believe them to be so! Speak your truth and put those positive words out into the Universe. Treat others with love and respect. When you do, you will soon discover all of that truth, love, and respect coming back to you and therefore, creating the success you deserve. And so it is…

We Could All Use A Daily Mental Rebirth

Every day brings us the opportunity to hit the “refresh” button on our brains and start fresh. We all have those days when everything goes wrong and we just can’t wait for a new day.

Here are some tips to help you do just that! Take 5-10 minutes in the morning before you begin your daily routine and simply close your eyes and breathe deep and quiet your mind.

Try stating the following affirmations for each type of ” mental rebirth” that you need:

  • For Release and Letting Go:
    • I release all sense of tension and anxiety from my body and mind.
    • I release all fear and doubt about my life, knowing that is guided to success and happiness through the higher power of my mind.
    • I release all sense of hostility toward anyone and bring myself into eternal peace.
  • For Peace:
    • Every breath I take into my body is a breath of peace and rest for my mind.
  • For Health:
    • All nerves, cells, tissues and organs of my body are now attuned to the perfect harmony of nature.
    • The mental cause behind any physical ailment is removed from all levels of my mind by God.
    • All cells in my body are reborn to health and perfection.
  • For Prosperity:
    • I attract all that I need for my prosperity.
    • I am intuitively directed by my mind to be in the right place at the right time with the right person for the receiving of my prosperity.
  • For Happiness:
    • I know that all things are possible, and I let this thought vibrate as happiness throughout my being.
    • Through my spirit within me, my soul and its destiny are fulfilled, giving me a complete feeling of happiness throughout my being.
  • For Creative Thinking:
    • My mind is filled with creative ideas that I can use for constant improvement in my life, and these ideas are flowing into my mind.
    • All it takes is one creative idea to improve my life, and I already possess that idea in the universal part of my mind.
  • For Love:
    • I love myself, and because of this, I am filled with love and vibrate love out to others each day.
    • As I vibrate love out to others, I attract love in all its many forms from others.
    • I send forth love into the universe, and am loved back by life itself.
  • For Spiritual Awareness:
    • Every meditation period opens my mind more and more to an awareness of my higher spiritual nature and soul.
    • I am sensitive to the mental and spiritual cause behind all conditions and circumstances in life.

With each of these affirmations, believe it to be so. Simply put: The Universe is for me, and so is everything else…and so it is!!

Negative Trends – Can You Reverse Them?

We’ve all been through difficult times in our lives. We’ve also heard the statement that when we’re going through that particular storm, we’re going through a change in our lives. That nothing can stay the same, and we’re to keep our chin up and remain positive when we’re going through said storm.

However, that’s one of the most difficult things to do, no matter what adversity you are facing. I’ve always said to myself when someone has shared that wisdom, “Seriously? That’s what I want to hear right now?”

Unfortunately, it’s so true. I know this because I’ve witnessed the other side of difficult storms I’ve gone through. The key IS to learn how to handle them because we can’t eliminate them from our lives. Life happens and if we can discover ways to handle the negative situation without going into a panic, we may actually see how it can produce positive benefits.

We all know how easy it is to be positive about our lives when we’re going through positive trends. But when a negative trend hits us and we fight it, it will ultimately delay the change for the greater good that is taking place.

Therefore, whenever you’re handed a negative trend, this is the time to test your faith and spiritual power by trying the following:

  • Don’t allow your thinking to become negative about yourself and life – NO MATTER WHAT!
  • You must try to keep your thoughts positive by realizing you’re going through a transitional period, which appears on the surface as negative or destructive.
  • The only thing that is being destroyed is the “old” in your life so it can clear the way for even greater good in your life.
  • Just try to tell yourself “this too shall pass”, which will cause the transitional phase to pass quickly, resulting in greater good.
  • During this time it’s even more important to meditate and program your mind with positive thought patterns, such as:
    • I accept that these difficult trends in my life are only a transitional stage leading to greater good in my life;
    • I am confident about my future, regardless of what is taking place at this moment;
    • As a result of what I am going through right now, I have complete faith that my future will be even better.
  • Don’t tell other people what a difficult time you are having. This will only continue the negative thoughts, as well as, putting it out into the Universe causing it to continue to come back to you. Discuss it with someone you know who is positive and genuinely concerned for your well-being.
  • Never feel that God has failed you, or that you have failed God. Blaming God or someone else will only prolong the negative trend, which will prevent you from moving forward into the positive trend in your life.
  • Be aware of new ideas about your life that may enter into your mind at this time. Keeping your mind positive and open, the answers will come.

Here are a few statements you can tell yourself while you quiet your mind during a storm:

While Inhaling, Tell Yourself:                                                While Exhaling, Tell Yourself:

I take in the new ……………………………………………………………… I eliminate the old.

I take in a new trend ……………………………………………………….. I eliminate an old trend.

I take in a positive future ………………………………………………… I eliminate a negative past.

Remember that you can reverse a negative trend. Believe in yourself, and keep the faith. And so it is…