I’ve often heard this phrase throughout my life during difficult times that people have faced, but I never realized truer words until I lost my father February 20, 2018. You hear those cliché’s of…life goes on; they’re in a better place, etc. I’ve used them myself, but when you are the one going through the actual storm, you discover what you’re made of and the strength of your faith.
I’ve seriously spent the last eight years rediscovering myself and my purpose. I’ve studied metaphysics, learned meditation and yoga, and tried to practice every day what it means to be present. I’ve also practiced the image of hope and believe there’s a reason for everything, but it wasn’t until my father slipped away that I understood what I had in me to carry on, get up each day and push through, and watch the sun rise and set.
I remember looking out my mother’s window after coming back from hospice when my father received last rites, and I watched the cars buzz by on the highway. People were scurrying off to work, or shopping, or taking their children to school. It was in that immediate moment when I realized, wow…life indeed does go on.
My emotions were mixed. I was angry that I lost my dad. I was relieved he wasn’t suffering anymore and at peace on the other side. My heart ached, and the pain was indescribable, but through all of that, a strange calm came over me. It was true, dad no longer suffered from neuropathy, shortness of breath, heart issues, a stroke, and pneumonia. I was blessed to have him in my 54 years, and I knew that I would hold his memories in my heart forever. To be honest, I’m not really sure where the calm and peace came from, other than knowing that I’ll be able to talk to my dad daily now. It just won’t be over the phone.
So, if you’re struggling with any pain, please know that if you keep your heart and mind open to the peace that comes with faith and hope, you can get through anything. You’ll soon discover, just as I did, that watching the sun rise and set is a gift from God not to be taken lightly.
Get up every day with a renewed enthusiasm for life. Love one another, cherish one another and be kind to one another. Cliché as it may be, life is short, life does go on, and the sun does rise and set…and so it is!